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99 reasons why I prefer sex with str8 men – Reason 1: Raw Masculinity February 22, 2009

For those of you who are familiar with my sex reality blog, you already know that so far in my life, I have only had sexual encounters with heterosexual guys. It’s clear in my head that I want nothing to do with the vast majority of gay guys and my sexual desire is chiefly geared toward the pussy-loving kind. Whenever I admit that, however, most people give me the puzzled look; the reactions range from incredulity to advices on accepting my own sexual orientation to plain admitted jealousy. Oh silly them!

This is the first installment of my informative series on desire for heterosexual guys. In the months to come, I will try to explain why I only go for str8 guys who, in theory, don’t give a darn about me. I am well aware that the “str8 guy” fantasy has become quite popular in porn recently and quite a few gay guys prefer to have sexual encounters with “heterosexual guys” whatever that means; in no way do I claim to be special or unique here but my preference precedes that fad. I just never had an attraction to gay guys. Read on to find out why I prefer those who play for the other team!

Reason One: Raw Masculinity vs Fakers, Metrosexuals, Fashion Victims and Gym Queens

Let’s start with the fairly obvious that’s not so obvious after all. I like a man to be… manly. Whenever I mention that, the boring gay advocates run their predictable 1980s tapes and inevitably serve me their official response that always goes among those same lines: “wake up, there are very masculine gay guys, come on”. Usually, those people refer me to the muscular guys that populate gay parades or the odd gay blue collar worker. This allows me to clear up one thing: my definition of masculinity.

I know a “real man” when I see one. It would be very difficult to make up a list of characteristics or requirements for a person to be considered a man. One thing is absolutely certain in my mind (and it’s far from obvious to most gay guys that I have encountered), for me, masculinity is not limited to the superficial physique. Being a man is an attitude, a way of life, a way of thinking, a way of walking, a way of seeing life, a way of winning, a way of dressing. Sure the gym queens have impressive muscles. Some of them could *almost* fool me… and then they open their mouths, and then they start walking, and then they express their views, and then they spend hours falling in love with themselves. But I don’t mind because, by then, I had time to run far, far away!

“Well if they have sex with you, they’re not so str8!”

“You’re after str8 guys because you’re in denial yourself… quit that self-hate. Gay is ok, you know.”

“How do you know they’re even str8?”

“Damn, how do you do that? Can I suck with you or at least watch?”

While most gay guys stop at impressive six-pack abs, my sophisticated psyche dwells further. Don’t hate me, I can’t help it. I was born that way! Physically, I like really masculine men. I like guys who have self-confidence, internal locus of control, high sex drive, who are assuming, powerful, daring go-getters, who do not apologize for living. This is all very nice and sweet but let’s look at a real-life example.

Cristiano Ronaldo, a case in point

The guy is an accomplished soccer player, the guy is exotic-looking, the guy has acne (=high hormones and sexual drive), the guy has sexy abs and strong legs, the guy has money. That’s the definition of an ideal man, right? And then you look at him like this… eugh!

Thanks sweetie-pie for helping me make a point. Now go back to the tanning parlor. You don’t want to look like a sick ghost in Hollywood. Nasty.

Many gay guys I’ve seen look more manly than THAT. I like men, not dolls.

Of fashion and penis-squeezing underwear

Str8 men are independent and strong-headed. Homosexuals and metrosexual fashion victims: NOT MASCULINE, no matter if “officially” str8. As mentioned above, real men lead or at least do what they want; fashion victims are, by definition, insecure and passive followers of other people’s dictates. Becoming a looser to something as superficial and fake as fashion (incidentally created by fags) takes away all masculinity, liberty and admiration a man could have in my eyes. To me, a man looks more masculine in thorn gray Hanes briefs than in those fancy, uber-tight, rainbow-colored-and-too-short undies. To me, a man has a penis (didn’t think I would ever have to specify that) and a penis needs space. What’s with those underwear that try to squeeze dicks into becoming tiny clits? Is that another attempt to make guys even more feminine? Just look at the ad below and you’ll know what I mean. Poor “guys”. They may well have tiny Asian dickies but even they are grasping for air and suffering from being squeezed into girlie baby undies. NOT SEXY, EVEN LESS MANLY!

Mirror, mirror on the wall, am I the faggiest of them all?

Real men are too busy doing things and enjoying masculine activities to stop and fall in love with themselves. Self-conscious guys who think that they are beautiful just stop being masculine in my eyes. Guys who think they’re all that just lose their natural, raw charm and therefore all their power of attraction. That’s why most male models just leave me very cold. They look so fake or just have this bland traditional beauty to them and that is feminine. To me, careless jocks who aren’t afraid to get dirty, who sometimes get hurt and injured don’t have time to play pretty dolls. That’s their girls’ job. Besides, is there anything sexier than sweaty jocks, dirty soccer socks, locker rooms? I just don’t get that thrilled by spas, hairdressers, laser hair removal and department stores, sorry. So those obsessed with hiding their raw side, striving to eliminate their masculine features, and adopting petty feminine behavior (surgery, changing hair color, earrings, perfume abuse)… no thanks!

More famous examples, please!

While a strong physique, a proactive and dominant attitude in life and involvement in criminal (latino gang members, mafia boys), extreme (wrestlers, daredevils, risk-takers), dangerous (firemen), heroic (military men) or athletic activities (hockey players) is sure to earn guys major brownie points, these points are quickly lost when frivolous behavior or feminine attitudes exist. No matter how masculine, how heterosexual or how athletic,

• a sexy Italian mafia boy who kills competitors by night (wow, daring, sexy, courageous = +80 points) and spends his days at a tanning salon (eugh, nasty -90 points) = not manly
• publicity-seeking (-40) cutiepie (+20) hockey player (+80) José Theodore who follows fashion trends (-30), wears an earring (-20) and is involved with Paris Hilton (-60) = not manly
• tough football players (+80) who like to get ass-fucked (with dildos, strap-ons, or by guys: -100) = not manly

On the other hand, despite their seemingly unfavorable start

• hockey-playing (+80) Belorussian Kostitsyn brothers became involved with a dope-dealing criminal who provided them with whores to empty their balls (hot, +80)… they may not be so pretty (-40) or wear the latest designer sunshades but hell, they sure are men and that’s how I like them! They play hard, they dare, they get going, they risk, they try kinky things. That’s precisely the kind of men I admire, desire and… pleasure.
• hot, hung (+40) str8, married (and father of 2) guy (+40) and gay-for-pay pornstar (-50) gone killer (+60)  Marcus Allen
• sexy young (18yo I think, +50) bad boy (+40) from a small town in Quebec, Canada who, along with a buddy, broke into an elderly lady’s house, stole her belongings and raped her… talk about courage, thrills and kinkiness (+90)
• although young and girlie-faced (-35), Jonathan Roy is still very masculine because of his hockey playing, athletic body and aggressiveness on the ice rink (+90)

And what about Michael Phelps?

Quick analysis of the raw masculinity of the swimmer.

The masculine:

• is remarkably tall, muscular, sporty, and disciplined (+50)
• has lots of natural charm and is raw & “normal looking” (+40)
• is strong-headed and can be stubborn (+20)
• is an accomplished, talented gold medal machine (+50)
• is courageous, expressive, physical and has drive (+40)
• is wealthy (+20)
• dresses casual, normal (+40)
• acts masculine (+40)
• has a definite sense of humor (+10)
• is humble and not overly self-conscious (+40)
• is independent and able to be alone (+10)
• is evasive about his love/sex life… doesn’t deny, doesn’t confirm it… doesn’t lie, but doesn’t reveal anything either… that’s kinda strong given today’s inquisitive and star-struck society (+10)
• parties, drinks, drives, does dope and makes stupid mistakes (+40)
• does superbly well for an “absent father” case; may be gay but generally has a jock-next-door appearance and attitude (+40)

The feminine:

• is very obedient, disciplined (mother, coach, sponsors, etc.) (-40)
• apologizes for being young and wild (or not obedient) (-60)
• is a mommy’s boy (which is cute but you know…) (-20)

Masculine (+450) + Feminine (-120) =330

Verdict: Definitely Raw Masculinity. Michael Phelps’ style, relaxed attitude and jocky character reminds me of Rob, a str8 guy I sucked a few times. But being a champ, a young success story, he would probably qualify as one of the rare masculine gay guys I could become enamored with. So it’s definitely a special case.

In short, it’s not as obvious to be a man as it may first seem. Although very few gay guys can fit my definition of masculinity, str8 guys do not automatically qualify. If anything, I am a doll so when it comes to sex, I’m not looking for a sister, shopping partner or guys who look and act more feminine than I can. I’m looking to mate with real men (both physically and psychologically), guys who are active, courageous and exhibit masculine qualities such as physical strength and strength of character, independence, success and accomplishment. It is these raw, careless kinds of winners that get me wet, that’s all.

Next week: The second reason why I only have sex with heterosexual guys.